Exposer

Fuckboy Study

I have been disrespected by males all my life. Most of the time I would let it roll off my back, because it is not worth it to get worked up over. But it is such a continuous thing and recently I have had enough so when it came time to pick a persuasive speech topic for communication I decided to do mine on why not to be a fuckboy. I decided to conduct my own little experiment. I asked a bunch of guys I know from work and school a series of questions:

Do you consider yourself a Fuckboy?
Have you ever cheated on someone? Why?
Have you ever been cheated on?
Have you ever been pressured into doing something you weren’t ready for?
Have you ever played someone? 
Have you ever lied to someone to get more physical with them? Why?
Have you ever been with someone who had a girlfriend/boyfriend? Did you know about it at the time?
Do you care about other people’s feelings?
If it was your mother, sister, daughter, etc. being played, how would that make you feel?
What are your actual intentions when you ask out someone out?
How often do you ask people out?
How would you define a fuckboy?
Honestly are you a fuckboy?

I got a lot of good information, but I felt I needed to get information from a women point of view so I interviewed women too. All of this was originally just for my speech, but I got way too much information and I felt like I needed to share with more people than just the people in my comm class.

Fuckboys are all around us, some of them are out in the open others know how to camouflage. 80% of the guys I interviewed are fuckboys and 90% of them had cheated before. When I asked if they had ever lied to someone to get more physical with someone Participant B told me yes and then I asked him why and he said, “It just means I’m young,” I don’t know what that has anything to do with not caring about someone else’s feelings, but okay. When I asked Participant D 'If it was your mother, sister, daughter, etc. being played, how would that make you feel?' he said “I can’t be mad because its karma,” that statement blew my mind. I thought his lack of concern for even the people closest to him was insane. When I asked Participant B 'How often do you ask people out?' mind you he has a girlfriend, he said really quickly, “I don’t want to talk about it,” I was like ookay then. When I asked Participant D 'What are your actual intentions when you ask out someone out?'  he said, “To make them fall without the intentions of catching them,” the fact that when it comes to being with someone is a game to him is really disgusting. When I asked them to define a fuckboy Participant B told me, “that’s not in my vocabulary,” but I really liked Participant L’s definition “Someone who degrades women to impress other men,” I never thought about it in that way before, but know that I do it helps me understand it a little more.

Out of the women I interviewed only 10% of them had cheated. 75% of the girls I interviewed said they have been pressured into doing something they were not ready for and 80% of them had been played. Participant J told me a very interesting story about a guy she was with. She had started seeing this guy and they were probably about a month in, when in the middle of them making out his phone rings and he answers it, “Hey Baby,” and then he shushes Participant J and when he gets off the phone with his baby mama/ girlfriend Participant J is about to learn about, he says “Monogamy is stupid.” I have no words. Actually I do it is completely and utterly disrespectful to be with someone when you have someone else at home with your child. It is disrespectful to your baby mama the girl you are ticking and to your little daughter at home. I was so mad when I heard this, because it hits home. Eventually all his wrongs are going to catch up with him and he is not going to have anyone to buy him dippers or whip his ass when he’s old.

Conclusion: One of my main reasons why I did this experiment was to understand why someone would mess with people’s feelings. I still do not understand, but the guys do not really understand why they treat people so horrible either. I think most of the guys I interviewed see their flaws and will think twice before they decide to play a girl.

I really enjoyed conducting this study, it made me realize this may be what I would like to do. I got to confront people who did me and others wrong, and really made them think about their actions. One of the guys I interviewed called me an Exposer, and I think he meant it in a negative way but I took it in a positive way.

So I did a self portrait of myself