Fuckboy
Study
I
have been disrespected by males all my life. Most of the time I would let it
roll off my back, because it is not worth it to get worked up over. But it is
such a continuous thing and recently I have had enough so when it came time to
pick a persuasive speech topic for communication I decided to do mine on why
not to be a fuckboy. I decided to conduct my own little experiment. I asked a
bunch of guys I know from work and school a series of questions:
Do
you consider yourself a Fuckboy?
Have
you ever cheated on someone? Why?
Have
you ever been cheated on?
Have
you ever been pressured into doing something you weren’t ready for?
Have
you ever played someone?
Have you ever lied to someone to get more physical
with them? Why?
Have
you ever been with someone who had a girlfriend/boyfriend? Did you know about
it at the time?
Do
you care about other people’s feelings?
If
it was your mother, sister, daughter, etc. being played, how would that make
you feel?
What
are your actual intentions when you ask out someone out?
How
often do you ask people out?
How
would you define a fuckboy?
Honestly
are you a fuckboy?
I
got a lot of good information, but I felt I needed to get information from a
women point of view so I interviewed women too. All of this was originally just for
my speech, but I got way too much information and I felt like I needed to share with more people than just the people in my comm class.
Fuckboys
are all around us, some of them are out in the open others know how to
camouflage. 80% of the guys I interviewed are fuckboys and 90% of them had
cheated before. When I asked if they had ever lied to someone to get more
physical with someone Participant B told me yes and then I asked him why and he
said, “It just means I’m young,” I don’t know what that has anything to do with
not caring about someone else’s feelings, but okay. When I asked Participant D 'If it was your mother, sister, daughter, etc. being played, how would that make you feel?' he said “I can’t be mad because its karma,” that statement blew my
mind. I thought his lack of concern for even the people closest to him was
insane. When I asked Participant B 'How often do you ask people out?' mind you he has a girlfriend,
he said really quickly, “I don’t want to talk about it,” I was like ookay then.
When I asked Participant D 'What are your actual intentions when you ask out someone out?' he said, “To make them fall without the
intentions of catching them,” the fact that when it comes to being with someone
is a game to him is really disgusting. When I asked them to define a fuckboy
Participant B told me, “that’s not in my vocabulary,” but I really liked
Participant L’s definition “Someone who degrades women to impress other men,” I
never thought about it in that way before, but know that I do it helps me
understand it a little more.
Out
of the women I interviewed only 10% of them had cheated. 75% of the girls I
interviewed said they have been pressured into doing something they were not
ready for and 80% of them had been played. Participant J told me a very
interesting story about a guy she was with. She had started seeing this guy and
they were probably about a month in, when in the middle of them making out his
phone rings and he answers it, “Hey Baby,” and then he shushes Participant J
and when he gets off the phone with his baby mama/ girlfriend Participant J is
about to learn about, he says “Monogamy is stupid.” I have no words. Actually I
do it is completely and utterly disrespectful to be with someone when you have
someone else at home with your child. It is disrespectful to your baby mama the
girl you are ticking and to your little daughter at home. I was so mad when I
heard this, because it hits home. Eventually all his wrongs are going to catch
up with him and he is not going to have anyone to buy him dippers or whip his
ass when he’s old.
Conclusion:
One of my main reasons why I did this experiment was to understand why someone
would mess with people’s feelings. I still do not understand, but the guys do
not really understand why they treat people so horrible either. I think most of
the guys I interviewed see their flaws and will think twice before they decide
to play a girl.
I
really enjoyed conducting this study, it made me realize this may be what I
would like to do. I got to confront people who did me and others wrong, and
really made them think about their actions. One of the guys I interviewed
called me an Exposer, and I think he meant it in a negative way but I took it
in a positive way.
So I did a self portrait of myself
